Let’s get real here, people.

I hear excuses like this ALL the time.

‘I could never let myself eat ‘whatever I want’ because I’m a compulsive overeater! I’d eat the WORLD!’

‘If I tried to ‘let go’ of my rules about food, I’d spend all day eating.’

‘If I did what you did and had chips and candy whenever I wanted, I’d be the size of a house!’

… okay, okay, okay.

Let’s get a few things straight here!

First of all: my program is DESIGNED for people with ‘eating problems’. Especially people who consider themselves ‘compulsive overeaters’.

In fact, as a recovering compulsive overeater myself – yes, I’ve been down that road, and I know JUST how terrible and painful it really is – I can tell you right now that most of your problems with overeating, cravings, and emotional reliance on food stem directly from your screwed-up, diet-based, fear-based relationship with food.

In other words, once you make the decision to ‘let go’ and stop trying to CONTROL yourself around food …

… well, first, you’ll undoubtedly experience a huge upswell in the number of junk-food based meals you consume.

That’s only natural.

After years and years of CONTROLLING and WORRYING and FRETTING about junk food (and eating it anyway but feeling awful about it and punishing yourself afterwards), you’ve got some serious rebuilding to do.

You’re finally attacking the ‘logjam’ itself: years of backed-up cravings for foods that you would never let yourself eat at the time!

So yeah, you’re going to eat a LOT more crap for awhile. Of that, I have no doubt at all. (I know I sure did. It took me a good few months to get over my need for chocolate, candy, and salty snacks instead of meals!)

But THEN … that’s where the magic sets in. Once that logjam dissolves – and trust me, it ALWAYS does, no matter how long it might take – you start to get to the good stuff.

You start to experience cravings for other foods.

Like spinach.

And bananas.

And roast vegetables.

Things cooked in olive oil. Quality meats. Seafood. Sweetcorn, eggplant, hummus.

You start to wake up, on a physical, cellular level, to the fact that there is a WHOLE WORLD of different, delicious foods and BIG, EXCITING flavors out there.

And suddenly, packaged chips and factory-made candy and things that come in plastic packets start to look kind of BORING compared to what you could be eating.

You start to notice, in a spontaneous, unforced, effortless way, that it actually feels better to eat ‘real’ foods at mealtimes instead of ‘junk’ foods. And because you’re not forcing yourself to notice this, it feels quite natural to do what feels best.

You start to NATURALLY eat more healthy, delicious, varied, real foods.

Did I mention that all of this happens EFFORTLESSLY, as a natural byproduct of eating what you want and actually trusting your own body?

Of course, you’ll probably always have a soft spot for sweets and salty foods (or whatever your particular food jones has always been.) And that’s totally fine. Because when you eat this way, you get to eat WHATEVER you want to eat, whether it seems ‘smart’ on an intellectual level or not.

Recently I picked up a diet book while I was waiting for a flight at the airport. (I won’t tell you the title, because I don’t want to publicly criticize anyone.)

Inside was a couple of chapters on ‘motivation’, with sentences like ‘just f***ing do it’ and ‘do you think looking good is EASY?’ …

… and then a whole bunch of eating plans and exercise ‘bootcamp’ requirements.

The total calories for a woman on this diet was 1,200 per day. Men were allowed ‘up to’ 1,800 calories a day (they could add an extra piece of meat to each meal, maximum.)

Meals relied heavily on ingredients like eggwhites, cottage cheese, boiled chicken, raw vegetables, and the occasional small portion of bread, fruit, or red meat.

Exercise was daily, with an emphasis on ‘feeling the burn’ and ‘pushing past the pain’.

Once a week there was something called a ‘hero day’, which required participants to work out for a minimum of 90 minutes, run 5 to 7 kilometres (3-5 miles), and consume zero carbs throughout the day: breakfast was 3 cooked eggwhites, lunch was a salad with 150 grams of chicken breast, and I forget what dinner was because I was so disgusted by this stage I threw the book down and walked away.

Can we be honest with ourselves for a minute here?

Which is more likely to cause cravings, weird food behavior, hoarding, obsession, guilt, and long-term screwed-up thinking about food:

  • A strict diet requiring large amounts of exercise, minimum amounts of food, and very little IF ANY attention paid to the body’s own likes, dislikes, needs, and appetites,

Or,

  • A generalized way of life based upon respecting what feels good on a physical and emotional level, learning to trust yourself around food, and learning how to eat in a way that nourishes both your body AND your emotions and self-image?

Hmmmmm!

Well, in case this is not clear to you, I’ll be specific. I’ve been through hell and back with my own eating habits and food-based self-esteem. I am a recovering compulsive overeater. And I can tell you this for free: the ONLY way of life that I have EVER come across (and I’ve tried them all) is the one that let me do what felt right to me, and that prioritized trusting myself and feeling good over and above ‘feeling the burn’ or ‘burning off calories no matter what’.

Here’s the beauty of it: eating this way – my way, the way that feels good, the way that lets you care about YOURSELF as well as your skinny jeans – gives you the body you were meant to have anyway.

You might not get a body like a model, granted – meaning, you might not be able to play the xylophone on your ribs, cut glass with your hipbones, or disappear for a split-second every time you walk behind a lamp-post.

But you’ll lose your excess fat (while retaining JUST enough of it to maintain healthy organ function, fertility, and a shapely ass), you’ll get healthy, you’ll leave your cravings behind FOREVER …

… and by God, you’ll feel GOOD about yourself.

Few things make you feel worse, long-term, than ignoring your own needs in order to follow someone else’s ‘rules’. In fact, I can hardly think of anything more life-denying.

Conversely, few things are more empowering than saying, ‘To hell with the rules!’ and figuring out, over time, what works best FOR YOU.

Try it. You’ll like it. And the best part is, no matter what your ‘issues’ are with food, this is one way of eating and living that is guaranteed to heal.

(P.S. You can try the diet method, if you really want to. But once you’re tired of struggling, crying, and have re-gained all the weight you lost in the first place, make sure you come back here. Because what you get from my way is not only effortless, it’s permanent.)